the title pretty much says it all. people usually hate or talk about others that have something they don't. envy is human nature, it makes us aware of our interdependence. jealousy, however, is a multi-faceted choice to not do something. not better yourself, not be humble, not celebrate others, not...
but, it's a back-handed complement to those on the receiving end to see the something in themselves that they may not see and surround themselves by people who will value them for what they add to their community.
